An abusive relationship does not always means that the GUY is the one abusing the Woman in the relationship, it is very much possible that Women also abuse men in relationships.
If you are in a relationship and you find yourself asking this question or if others have expressed concerns, then you need to get your heart out of the way and think straight with your mental power. If your friends, family members express concerns about your relationship, then you should note that it is possible that you are in an abusive relationship.